If you’re like me, you probably crush on a lot of people a lot of times. It can be a fun and enjoyable experience, especially if things are going your way, or it can be an annoying and painful ordeal if things don’t go your way. Maybe your crush doesn’t like you back, they live too far away, you’re not interested in pursuing it or some other reason why you might want to get rid of it. The problem is, it doesn’t always go away when we want it to. You can’t control how you feel, but most importantly, you can control what you do. So I’m going to share with you a few tips on how to get rid of a crush or at least stop feeling it effects too much until it eventually wears off.
- REALIZE YOU NEED TO GET RID OF YOUR CRUSH
Sounds funny, but the first step in getting rid of a crush is actually realizing that you need to get rid of your crush. This triggers your brain to realize that this is something you don’t want and gradually, it will start working on moving past those feelings. I’m not a science person and all, but I’m pretty sure just having the thought counts a lot towards ridding yourself off of those feelings.
- GET BUSY
A lot of the times when we’re idle, our minds will wander off to think about many uncalled for things. And this is when your mind starts imagining the endless possibilities that you could have with your crush. This is very counterproductive as it will only reinforce your feelings towards them. You want to always be doing something. Don’t allow your mind to wander off. If for a moment you find yourself thinking about your crush, do something. Read a book, watch a movie, work out, cook, clean, whatever takes your mind off things. When you deprive yourself of the opportunity to fantasize about them, you’ll eventually realize that you don’t actually like them as much as you thought you did.
- LOOK AT THEIR WEAKNESSES
This one is in the grey areas. But I found it to work very well for me. When I felt too attracted to someone I can’t have, I start to look at their weaknesses and whether or not I could endure being with someone who has those weaknesses. More often than not, it’s hard to look, or even notice your crush’s weaknesses. If you find yourself in a position that you cannot absolutely do anything to keep your mind occupied, instead of fantasizing about how awesome your crush is, think about how terrible they are. Maybe they’re not clean or neat, or they like making fun of other people or are too slow or they chew with their mouth open. Everyone has weaknesses. And if you associate your crush with negative things, you’re well on your way to getting rid of the feelings you harbour for them.
- TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE
I found that this was quite an effective tool. Especially if you see your crush a lot. Like if you work together or commute together or they’re your neighbour or something of the sort. It’s time to stop obsessing over them and realize that there are so many people out there. With the advent of social media, you could literally start talking to as many people as you want. You’ll quickly realize that your crush isn’t special and all the things you thought were unique to them are actually very common, for the most part. This will also give you something else to think about. When you start thinking about other people, your attention will shift from your crush. It’s a delicate balance though. You don’t want to jump from one crush to another especially when you’re trying to get rid of it. Find a few more people who will make you feel that you’re not as empty as you initially thought you were.
- SAY NO TO YOUR CRUSH
I found out that putting yourself in a position to say no to your crush kind of helps. I’m not sure if it works for everyone, but it certainly works for me. I’m not sure if it has any roots in psychology, but I think the more you say no to something, the more your brain gets triggered that you don’t actually like it. So whenever your crush tries to ask or convince you to do something, purposefully say no to them. It will feel very awkward and out of place. But it will give you a sense of control over your emotions and ultimately make you feel like you don’t actually need them very much.
- LIVE YOUR LIFE
The best and most important thing that you can do for yourself is to live your life. Don’t allow yourself to be so caught up in getting your crush that you forget that there’s so much more to life. Get a hobby, travel, keep doing what you were doing before you met them. Just make sure that you’re living your life to the fullest and don’t let your crush get in the way of you doing what you always did before you met them. You’ll find that the more you keep experiencing and living, the more you realize how little of a grip they have over your life.
- ENDURE IT
As cheesy as it may sound, time actually does heal all wounds. It’s not a wound per se, but time can heal it. If you find it really hard to get over your crush in spite of trying everything, then this is your only option. Take confidence in knowing that nothing lasts forever. Even this crush will eventually end.
These are not very many tips, but they have gone a long way in helping me get over impossible crushes over the years. I hope they do the same for you.