If you’re starting to feel like your best friend or close friend is no longer the best thing for you, chances are you’re in a toxic friendship. These kinds of friendships have a tendency to sneak up on people because the signs are often noticeable. But generally, a toxic friendship emotionally harms you rather than helping you.
Nevertheless, some friendships leave a lot to be desired and as you get older, you suddenly feel like perhaps you should let them go.
Below are signs to note or observe if your life revolves around toxic friends
They talk about you behind your back
Nothing hurts like knowing that your trusted friend often gossips about you or mocks your decisions behind your back. Instead of pointing out their problem with you individually, they go and talk about it with others or mutual friends. These types of friends are toxic and don’t have your wellbeing at heart.
They only call when they want something
All friendships should be equal and have a sense of balance which means that you should receive as much as you put in, more like a win-win situation. It’s all based on reciprocation and mutuality. If you’re putting in more than you’re getting out, you should think twice about what they are asking from you. You’ve probably been there: you’re always the one calling to check up on them, you make time to see them, you listen when they want to vent but when it comes their time to reciprocate, they are too busy or uninterested.
They put you down or make fun of you in front of others
Usually, people do this because they feel bad about themselves and want to use somebody else as a distraction. Mostly, they make fun of you or mock your situations in the name of a ‘joke’.If you express your discomfort from the “joke” they make label you as a petty person or insist you lack a sense of humor.
Friends should make you feel good, empowered, and uplifted. If you leave them feeling like crap then you should probably re-evaluate the benefit you’re getting from the friendship. Some people, unfortunately, just like to bring others down.
They aren’t happy for you when good things happen
This is one of the most common tell-tale signs and it’s also based on competitive behavior. A true friend will want to see you succeed and be happy. You know your friend is never happy for you when they react differently whenever you share with them any good news be it relationships, careers, or a minor achievement.
They may even try to discourage you from pursuing something or attempt sabotaging your plans by interfering with them without your knowledge. Stay keen on this.
They use your secrets against you and share them
This is malicious and absolutely nothing a true friend would ever do. All the private information you initially told them will be shared widely with everyone and anyone that is familiar with you. This is usually done by the toxic friend to create a sense of embarrassment or increase haters in your life or additionally bring you down as a person.
Dealing with such a person involves not sharing any information with them, gossiping or telling them your future plans because what they don’t know can never be ruined.
They never prioritize you
Everyone is busy these days and we all have a million things to squeeze into 24 hours in a day. But we make time for the people about whom we care. We make time for our friends and family and prioritize them when we can. If this person never prioritizes you, it’s because they don’t care about you as much as they care about the rest of the things going on in their lives.
They only look for you when they need favors or pass time before heading back to the more important things.