Let’s face it, heartbreak is inevitable for most of us. You’ve probably already experienced one or are experiencing one right now, that’s why you’re reading this. There’s no shame in it, it happens to the best of us.
So I’m going to share with you 7 proven ways on how to deal with a heartbreak.
This is among the most important things if you mean to recover from a breakup. You have to accept that it’s over, that things didn’t work out and he/she wasn’t the one for you. Sometimes we find ourselves fantasizing and building up all these fantastic scenarios whereby we can try and get our ex back when they see that they made a mistake. Don’t do it. You’ll only lead yourself into more heartache when your thoughts and ideas don’t pan out as you expected and end up deepening the scars that you’re already nursing. The best thing you can do is to accept what has happened and start working your way up from there.
- REMEMBER THE NEGATIVES
More often than not, it’s very tempting to think of your ex as your soul mate. You tend to imagine that they were perfect and your relationship was perfect with them. The truth is, it was far from perfect. You’re thoughts are only being clouded by the good times you had together and that makes you to start idolizing them. You need to remember the negative things about them. Whether you didn’t like how they snored, the worst argument you had, when they said something mean to you, when they didn’t do something special to you, any part of them that you didn’t like. Remember it, all of it. It will go a long way in helping you shift your perspective. It might even make you feel thankful for the relationship ending
- CHANNEL YOUR FRUSTRATIONS OUT CONSTRUCTIVELY
I like to think of heartbreak as a toxic feeling that can be flushed out just like all other toxins in the body. It takes time, but you can certainly speed up the process. One thing that always makes me feel better is doing some kind of physically strenuous activity. Join a gym, take boxing classes, hit a punching bag as hard as you possibly can. All you have to do is to find a way to release all the pent up anger and frustrations. It won’t necessarily get rid of all the emotions you’re feeling permanently, but it will help take your mind off things for some time. I would even argue that it would help you get a good night’s sleep due to all the exhaustion you’re feeling.
- DO ALL THE THINGS YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO
We sacrifice so many things in relationships that sometimes it’s hard to remember who we were before the relationship. All the time you’re in a relationship, there are things you would have loved to do but couldn’t because of your situation. Now is the time to do all those things. This will show you what you were missing all this time and will even make you feel a sense of gratitude for the relationship ending because now you can do whatever it is you always wanted to do without feeling guilty. And that’s a win in my book.
- LIVE YOUR LIFE
It always becomes tempting to just stay in bed all day when we’re nursing a broken heart, but this isn’t the way to go. Staying in bed and idle just gives you more time to remember all the good times which makes you feel even worse than you already do. Get out there and do all the things you used to do. Get busy, always make sure you’re doing something that makes you happy. Because any time you’re idle, your mind will automatically wander into memories that make you feel terrible.
- MEET OTHER PEOPLE
It’s always tempting to think that there’s no one else out there for us, which is never the case, the world is full of so much potential, and we could realize it if we only stepped back and took a moment to see it. Go have fun, go to the club if that’s your thing. Go for speed dating, hang out with your friends, go to a party. You need to make yourself understand that there’s almost an unlimited supply of people whom we’re compatible with.
This is the most difficult part. Forgiveness is not more about receiving an apology for you to forgive. It’s more about you offering it even when there was no apology. When you cease to harbour those feelings of resentment and bitterness, it takes a heavy load off your chest. You realize that you were burdening yourself for no reason because no matter how much resentment you feel towards them, it won’t change what happened. The best thing would be to purge all those feelings from yourself because they don’t give you any benefits at all. Granted, it’s very difficult to do this. It will take some time, but it’s always a good idea to work towards it so that you can completely free yourself off their control and move on without their ghosts ever hunting you.
Disclaimer: These tips are drawn from my own personal experiences.